Yesterday’s post was about not taking on the expectations of others when those expectations aren’t clearly set or stated. We shouldn’t accept the guilt or burden of meeting what we didn’t know someone else wanted from us.
Perhaps more importantly, we need to be sure that this isn’t something that we’re doing to someone else. I think those of us who are parents are exceptionally good at this. After all, what sort of parents would we be if we didn’t have expectations of our children? We also do this to our spouse, our parents, family, coworkers and friends. And we shouldn’t.
I’m not saying that we shouldn’t have expectations. I’m saying that those expectations need to be clear and stated. If you expect your kids do something, tell them. If it sounds ridiculous when you say it out loud, it’s probably not a fair expectation. This also goes for anyone else that you feel may have let you down. Did they know you expected something from them? Do they even know that you feel like they let you down?
So go ahead and set expectations if it’s your place to do so. If it’s not, then don’t and just let it go.